We have been going very steady for a year now and we have sex maybe twice a week. The only time we really ever have sex is when he wants it. To me that’s just not enough. He has E.D so I know he gets nervous sometimes about having sex. I never push him or make him feel bad about his problem. For some reason this problem is just not going away. What can I do to make him feel more comfortable and want to have sex more?
Chosen Answer:
Males are very fragile about their penis and how they can satisfy a female. One really big thing you can do for him is to lie a little.
It’ll take some effort on your part to fondle him when he’s ready for sex or in a good mood and accepting of it. Do some gentle oral on him and just play around with it gently. Now comes the lie. Tell him you can feel its different to usual. Suggest it’s a bit harder somehow; it feels nicer to you when its like this. If he wants to have sex tell him you want to play/suck it a while longer because you want to enjoy it a while longer. Even if he says he doesn’t believe you or says he can’t see any difference just say you know what you know and you like it. If you show more interest in his penis this way he’ll take it on board and feel much more adequate and confident. Time will do the rest. Above all sound positive and confident when you lie and he’ll follow your lead because deep down he really wants too. A bit more moaning or positive feedback about the difference during sex of any type will help to reinforce he’s able to give you pleasure and the pressure will be off him a bit more each time. You have to start off in a subtle offhand surprised manner and build on that slowly. Be convincing.
by: Greywolf
on: 20th October 08